War of the Roses – men and women see Valentines differently

Valentine’s day, Is it really that bad?

by Vijay Singh

It is no secret that men and women have different views on Valentine’s day. Most men believe this day to be a glorified holiday. Being a male and trying to understand both perspectives of each gender, there is nothing wrong with showering your significant other with some love. 

Juliannarae, a clothing website posted an article of what men should do and not do on Valentine's day. Contrary to older beliefs men do not have to go overboard with planning for Valentine’s day. 


Instead we can try being more thoughtful. Jerrold Lee Shapiro, Ph.D., a Professor and Chairman of Counseling Psychology at Santa Clara University says, “ “Avoid extraordinary surprises, unless she has already told you what she is hoping for or you know her so well that you cannot go wrong,” 

Still according to the same website, they also suggest not excluding a night in. “Well believe it or not, done right, the kitchen can be an environment for romance. But remember to keep things simple and prepare ahead,” suggests bestselling author John Gray in an article for eHarmony Advice. I believe women want to feel special and appreciated, cooking for them could show just that. 

Valentine’s day can be made about each gender in the relationship. We can do this by buying gifts that are not typical. I know my girl likes her rum and chips, she has also told me not to waste money on flowers. For me, she knows that I like tools, car parts and candies. These gifts would not be typical but they are thoughtful in our relationship.

Even Forbes, agreed with my viewpoint. They believe men like gifts that are more practical as well. For example, I like working on cars, so power drills and torque wrenches would be considerate for me. Along with that bag of candy, I’d be pretty happy with that. 

I think we need to step outside the old clichés that revolve around this day and make it about celebrating each other. Sometimes I believe that we make big deals about these kinds of days and there is no reason for it. Is it really that bad to give a day to the woman we love? 

I believe we can also use this day to celebrate our love and appreciate each other instead of looking at it as just a corporate holiday. If we celebrate our own way then who really cares how society views this day. 

Lots of men believe that it may be too expensive or that women are expecting a lot on this day. According to my viewpoints and research this does not ring true. An example of making this day special could be cooking her favourite meal. This would save costs for us men and make our significant other feel special at the same time. I hope this article helps and makes your day special with the person you are celebrating with.

by Vijay Singh

Making it memorable

by Begimay Koigeldi

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, and whether you're in a relationship or enjoying the single life, there's something undeniably charming about this day of love. As a girl, I believe it’s the perfect opportunity to celebrate all forms of love, whether it's with your significant other, friends, or family. Here are some ideas to make this Valentine’s Day memorable:

Gift Ideas:

  1. Flowers and Candies: You can never go wrong with a classic bouquet of flowers accompanied by a box of delicious chocolates. It’s a timeless gesture that symbolizes love and sweetness.
  2. Jewelry: Surprise your partner with a beautiful piece of jewelry that reflects their unique style and personality. Whether it’s a dainty necklace, elegant bracelet, or sparkly earrings, jewelry is a timeless gift that will be cherished for years to come.

  3.  Experiences Over Things:Instead of material gifts, options for experiences like a romantic dinner at a favorite restaurant, a couples' spa day, or tickets to a concert or show. These experiences create lasting memories and strengthen your bond.
  4. Handwritten Letters:In a world of digital communication, there's something incredibly intimate about receiving a handwritten letter expressing your feelings. Pour your heart out onto paper and watch as it becomes a cherished keepsake.

To me, Valentine’s Day isn't about grand gestures or expensive gifts; it's about showing appreciation and love in meaningful ways. Whether you're spending the day with a partner, friends, or family, what matters most is the thought and effort you put into making those around you feel special. It’s a day to celebrate love in all its forms and to spread kindness and joy wherever you go. 

Valentine’s Day is a wonderful opportunity to celebrate love and connection. Whether you're planning a romantic evening with your partner or enjoying a fun-filled day with friends, remember that the most important thing is to express your love and appreciation for those who make your life brighter. So, let’s embrace the spirit of Valentine’s Day and spread love wherever we go!


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